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Being a solo parent might have come to you unexpectedly or it may be what you have always planned. Even the most resourceful parent may find themselves in need of support, ideas, and resources. No matter the circumstances, this is the right place to find everything you need to be an outstanding solo parent. Host Robbin Rockett brings on a different guest each week to discuss all the aspects of being a single parent. You may be solo in your parenting role, but you are not alone. Listen to the show each week to find refreshing new ideas, hear stories of other solo parents, and connect with the community that is here to support you! Get tips and resources to help you thrive as a single parent at http:/www.SoloParentLife.com
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Mar 30, 2017

Are you co-parenting with someone who you suspect to be a narcissist? If you would like to find out if this is actually so and what you can do in that case,  listen in to today's show, with Robbin's expert guest, Wendy Behary, who has a really deep understanding of narcissism, having worked with narcissists for more than twenty-five years and find out how to deal with the situation

 

Wendy, who has a private practice in Springfield, New Jersey, is the author of the book Disarming The Narcissist- Surviving and Thriving With The Self-Absorbed. As a trained psychotherapist, she spends most of her time educating the general public and other clinicians around the world about how to work with the very challenging narcissistic client. She also teaches people how to deal with narcissism in their lives. Wendy stumbled on this as her specialty, through her curiosity about her own reactions in the treatment room, when she was confronted with narcissists. She found herself reacting as she would have as a little girl - caving in and apologizing, rather than responding as an adult therapist. This was a start to her adventure of learning and teaching about narcissism. Listen in today and to find out more about how to handle the narcissistic behavior of a co-parent and set yourself free from the associated drama.

 

Today, Wendy and Robbin discuss:

 

  • How to identify someone who is narcissistic.
  • Gaslighting- What that means.
  • The impact that narcissists tend to have on those who are close to them.
  • The difficulty of raising children within a narcissistic relationship.
  • Wendy's advice for single parents who are raising children with a narcissistic co-parent.
  • The use of empathic confrontation when dealing with a narcissist.
  • How understanding narcissism helps you to deal with narcissistic people.
  • What empathic confrontation looks like.
  • Why many people tend to avoid confrontation.
  • That the motivational driver is not to change the narcissist, but rather to change yourself in your responses to them.
  • How you can help your kids to deal with a narcissistic parent.
  • How you can model for your kids by empathizing with their situation.

 

Links: 

Wendy's website: www.disarmingthenarcissist.com

 

 

Mar 23, 2017

My guest today is Anya Manes, whose work I’ve followed for a while. She educates parents about talking to their kids about sex, holding workshops and webinars especially for parents of tweens. After dealing with awkwardness and strife in her family surrounding sex, she became a high school biology teacher and realized the need. She explains practically how to handle these difficult topics with your child, and why you shouldn’t wait until the middle school years to have these discussions!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • The norm: a scary, powerful view of sex
  • Anya’s years as a high school biology teacher
  • Why she left teaching to pursue motherhood and supporting parents in sex education
  • Advice to parents about creating a safe space
  • Communicating the rules and boundaries about physical bodies
  • Anya’s book recommendations for parents
  • The “Answering Questions BRAVELY Formula”
    • B--Take a deep breath
    • R--Recognize and affirm your child
    • A—Ask why they are asking
    • V—Investigate further
    • E—Evaluate your circumstances
    • L—Give the lowdown, but follow the two-sentence rule
    • Y—Your values
  • Anya’s free interview series

Resources:

www.talkingaboutsex.com

www.talktokidsaboutsexseries.com  (Anya’s resources)

Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg

 

Mar 16, 2017

Would you like to know more about the concept of temperament and how it can give you a clearer picture of who you are? Or would you simply like to be able to appreciate others more than you do now? If this rings true for you, listen in today and find out as Stacey Horn, the guest on today's show, spells it out.

 

Stacey is an ever-evolving social worker, who specializes in relationships. She has been working as a therapist in Aspen, Colorado for the last twenty-five years and now also works with people online. Stacey, who is passionate about the concept of temperament (or personality), has recently been doing a lot of coaching, which she sees as an educational process. She works mainly with families and couples who are no longer together. Listen in and find out more about temperament and how it makes sense out of relationships.

 

Today, Stacey talks to Robbin about:

 

  • How her understanding of temperament helps her in her work with parents.
  • How she first became interested in the concept of temperament.
  • How personality relates to temperament.
  • Why she likes Ray Lincoln's model of Innerkinetics.
  • The four types of temperaments.
  • A story of how she and her husband have shifted in dealing with their daughter, who has a different temperament type.
  • The gift of no longer taking things personally.
  • How to manage time management issues more effectively.
  • How Stacey meets with her husband, who is a different type of temperament, through this method.
  • The new awareness, which re-frames entire relationships, that can be found through this method.

 

Links: 

 

Stacey's website: www.staceyhorn.com

 

Stacey's phone no. 970 616 44 01

 

Stacey's Podcast: The Deeper Connections Podcast (Soon to be launched)

 

Robbin's website: www.soloparentlife.com

 

Resources:

 

Books: I May Frustrate You, But I'm a Keeper by Ray W. Lincoln

 

           I'm Still A Keeper by Ray W. Lincoln

         

           Innerkinetics by Ray W. Lincoln

 

Mar 9, 2017

If you would love to really connect with your kids on a deeper level, but you're battling to keep your head above water with the daily demands of life as a single mom or dad, listen in today and find out how you can adopt a new and more effective approach to parenting.

 

Today's guest, Julie King is co-author of the book How To Talk So Your Little Kids Will Listen. After completing Law School and having had her first child, Julie became aware of how people were talking to their children and realized that most people knew nothing of the approach to child rearing that she, herself had been raised with. When her daughter was in pre-school and Julie was studying Group Facilitation and Group Development, she offered to read a workshop-style book on child rearing to a parent group at the school. Due to the demand from the parents attending this group, it continued way beyond the initial eight week period and eventually turned into an ongoing support group for the next four and a half years! Other people heard about it, so Julie was asked to facilitate other groups and this is how Julie found herself involved with something fantastic, that she had not planned on doing. Listen in and find out how Julie conferred with her old friend Joanna Faber, who was doing similar work on the East Coast and how they ended up writing a book together. You're going to find this conversation really helpful!

Due to the demand from the parents attending this group, it continued way beyond the initial eight week period and eventually turned into an ongoing support group for the next four and a half years! Other people heard about it, so Julie was asked to facilitate other groups and this is how Julie found herself involved with something fantastic, that she had not planned on doing. Listen in and find out how Julie conferred with her old friend Joanna Faber, who was doing similar work on the East Coast and how they ended up writing a book together. You're going to find this conversation really helpful!

 

Today, Julie talks to Robbin about:

 

  • How Julie grew up with Joanna, the daughter of Adele Faber, who wrote the book How To Talk So Kids Will Listen And How To Listen So Kids Will Talk, in 1980.
  • The influence that Adele Faber had on Julie's life.
  • What motivated Julie and Joanna to write their book.
  • How challenging it can be to be a mom 24/7.
  • How her book can help parents to deal with their child's emotions- and their own.
  • The connection between how kids feel and how they behave.
  • How our intuition can lead us astray.
  • The challenge of responding to negative behavior in the moment.
  • The general orientation of her approach.
  • How to encourage cooperation in your kids that's respectful and realistic- and gets them out the door in the mornings!
  • Kids don't like being told what to do.
  • Problem-solving with your kids.
  • Her advice to parents who get angry, or battle to remain calm and think creatively in the moment.
  • How we all need time to work anger out of our bodies.
  • How to deal with your kid's sibling rivalry.
  • Julie's workshops for parents, in the Bay Area.
  • Julie's hope to develop a supportive community of parents.

 

Links:

 

Julie's website: www.julieking.org

 

Julie's Book's Website: www.howtotalksoyourlittlekidswilllisten.com

 

Robbin's website: www.soloparentlife.com – For the infographic for when parents are stressed.

 

Facebook Group: Solo Parent Life

 

Mar 2, 2017

We’ve all had moments where we felt negative space between ourselves and our children.  It’s important to find ways to connect with them in those times, in the happy times, and in the sad times. But, sometimes as parents, we need to listen and be supportive and leave space to let them release feelings.  This isn’t about making wrong or right decisions, but allowing them the moments to separate those feelings so that they can make good decisions. Learn how to manage these feelings and handle these situations by tuning into Solo Parent Life, with your host, Robbin Rockett. 

 

  • How to deal with kids when they have a hard time with separation 
  • Getting to the root of the problem 
  • Understanding the problem and how to deal with it 
  • Just listening and not offering a bribe or solution
  • Just hanging in there with your child and not being impatient 
  • Taking time to spend with all your kids and listen 
  • Avoid redirecting their feelings 
  • Connecting with your children and creating time to connect gives them the tools to make good decisions 

 

 

Resources:

 

HandinHand.org

 

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